Some of the things you might want to consider when exploring alternative approaches to your life are: What was I hoping my current perspective or strategy would accomplish? Knowing that is has not achieved its intended purpose, what would I need to let go of in order to make room for an alternative perspective or strategy? If I’m willing to consider adopting a more effective perspective or strategy, what would that look like? What would it sound like? What would an outside observer see that would indicate to them that I have taken a different approach to my life? What do I hope will be different for me as the result of the change(s) I am considering? What will I know that indicates this change has been successful?
The beauty of this process is that we can do it as many times as we want even multiple times in a single day. We are absolutely and exclusively responsible and empowered to decide the lenses we choose to view ourselves, others and the world through. If everything we do has the intention of satisfying our fundamental human yearnings for love, security, freedom, meaning, purpose, worth and connection (among others) then we have the right and power to review our perceptions, feelings, expectations, and desires as often as we like. It is though this continual review and reframing of our approach to life that we are able to incrementally move towards to life we long to live. This is a life-long journey with no ultimate end. There will never come a point in your life where the possibility of greater abundance and quality of life is beyond your next fresh start.
That is the beauty, wonder and power of your life. You retain the ability to continually enhance the quality of your life by cultivating a continual appreciation for what is and isn’t working in your life and then deciding what, if anything, you are willing to change in order to move towards the life you long to experience.
Remember too that choosing not to change anything at the moment is a perfectly reasonable response. It may be too early to make particular changes. That’s okay. You can be sure that those perceptions, expectations, and experiences that are not fully serving you will continue to increase the degree of unmanageability in your life until the level of discomfort arising from this ineffective strategy becomes so acute that you decide it is finally time to consider an alternative approach. The goal here is not perfection (which is not a realistic option so long as we exist in the imperfect physical universe) it is progress and just as we need to exercise in order to remain healthy we also need rest and relaxation. So easy does it. Be compassionate and know that the moment you begin to question your current approach to living at that precise moment the change process has already begun.
Be gentle with yourself and enjoy the journey.