For some reason we have accepted the notion that happiness is only appropriate for people who are worthy of it and for those of us who don’t live up to this standard of worth our lives are pre-destined to be unhappy and unfulfilled.
1. Why do we work so hard to fit in?
2. What would motivate us to twist ourselves into a pretzel to belong?
3. What, if anything, can we do to connect with others without having to compromise ourselves in the process?
Our brains are literally hard-wired for social connection so it should come as no surprise that the desire to fit in is a powerful drive that can lead us to seek out people who may not necessarily reflect who we are but who are willing to provide us with a sense of community that we are lacking.
Why does it seem easier for some people to stay in ego consciousness rather than having to do the harder work of integrating their ego-identity with their Spiritual nature?
There are people who seem from the start to have an advantage over the rest of us. They are born with particular talents, skills, intellect, or level of attractiveness that seems to ensure them easy passage through life. These individuals have the qualities and characteristics that society values and by virtue of their “gifts” seem destined to live the kind of life the rest of us can only dream about.
What does it cost us to secure the approval of others? How much of our authentic selves do we have to sacrifice in order to gain the approval of others and what is the price we pay internally for engaging in this strategy?
Seeking the approval of others seems like a reasonable objective. It is through the approval of others that we experience connection and community. It is how we get to experience the feeling of belonging. But if we distort or hide parts of who we are in our effort to gain the approval of others then what is the price we pay for this deception.
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