On and on the information came, from people who were in authority over me, and in a position to determine my treatment, that love, approval, and rewards were directly related to my behavior. No wonder I became a master manipulator. I learned from the time I was a small child that the love and happiness I was longing for was conditional, even from God!
Yet, as I grew this argument felt increasingly inaccurate. If we arise from the source of Unconditional Love then this is our most fundamental essence and God, however you understand that term, can be nothing but unconditionally loving towards us since that is what God is...perfect unchanging Unconditional Love. We are unconditionally loved by God regardless of whatever external conditions are occurring in our life and in every moment we have the choice to ask the question “What would unconditional love do in this moment?” I don’t believe that God is some kind of judge weighing out our motives and actions and then deciding whether or not we will receive unconditional love. The very nature of this unconditionally loving source, from which everyone and everything arises, ensures that unconditional love is the one universal constant. Does this give us license to intentionally hurt others and be completely indifferent to the impact of our thoughts and actions in our own life and the lives of everyone we touch? Of course not and the proof that we pay a price every time we extend unloving energy into the world is how we feel when we do so. Why do we feel shame, regret, guilt, and remorse over particular thoughts and actions we take? The answer is simple. Any thoughts and/or actions we take that don’t accurately reflect our unconditionally loving nature hurt us as much as they hurt those impacted by our thoughts and actions. It is the violation of our unconditionally loving nature that causes us to experience shame, regret, guilt, and remorse in the first place.
If you doubt this then ask yourself under what conditions do you experience shame, regret, guilt, and remorse? And under what conditions do you experience joy, genuine happiness, gratitude, and appreciation? I think you will find that any time your actions in alignment with your unconditionally loving nature the by-product of this decision is an experience a genuine happiness and when your actions are in violation of your true nature the by-product of this decision is an experience of suffering and regret.
So the question is not are we worthy of unconditional love and genuine happiness the question is when will we decide to embrace our true loving nature and consciously decide to act in alignment with it so we can experience more unconditional love and reduce our suffering? Extending unloving energy is an act of violence against ourselves and those we touch. Extending loving energy is an act of honoring ourselves and those we touch. One creates internal and external suffering, the other creates internal and external abundance. The choice is exclusively and continuously ours to make and if we don’t like the choices we have been making then we are always free to make a different choice. So…what do you want more of in your life?