There are people who seem from the start to have an advantage over the rest of us. They are born with particular talents, skills, intellect, or level of attractiveness that seems to ensure them easy passage through life. These individuals have the qualities and characteristics that society values and by virtue of their “gifts” seem destined to live the kind of life the rest of us can only dream about.
But they, like us, are subject to the same existential reality. No conditions outside of us can bring us the genuine happiness and fulfillment we desire if things inside of us are wounded and confused. On the surface the “success stories” walking the planet seem to have all the advantages and appear to be living truly fulfilling lives but we know from the occasional tragedy to this category of individuals that all is not perfect in paradise. These gifted individuals struggle from the same fears, insecurities, feelings of loneliness and isolation that the rest of us do only they don’t get the benefit of the doubt because of how spectacular their external conditions appear to be.
We are disinclined to feel sympathy or empathy for them because they live in the stratosphere of external conditions. It is hard to feel sympathy for someone living in a multi-million dollar mansion with all their financial and material resources. How can they legitimately claim to be experiencing difficulties in their life? What do they know about struggle and suffering? What right do they have to seek our sympathy? They are victims of the reverse side of the external conditions dilemma. Because they have so much they must be happy and if they’re not happy then there must be something wrong with them. Where do they turn for understanding? Who is going to give them a sympathetic hearing of their suffering?
If external conditions are incapable of bringing us genuine happiness because our experience of genuine happiness is a function of what we are holding on the inside, then regardless of how miserable or spectacular our external conditions the same principle applies.
The fact is that no amount of financial and material abundance can be an adequate substitution of experiencing genuine connection and authentic happiness. These qualities are internal not external and every human being is ultimately on the same path to consciously recover their unconditionally loving spiritual nature. Only by putting their ego-constructed identity in the intentional service of their loving nature can they encounter and extend their loving nature into their life and the lives of everyone they touch. But to make this decision they have to get let go of the faulty assumption that external conditions determine their happiness and this awakening is much harder as the degree of financial and material abundance increases.
When you step into the world today try to see beyond the external conditions of other people’s lives and remember that whatever their external conditions they are just as likely as you to be struggling to experience the genuine connection and authentic happiness that arises from within each of us. Like us their journey is to consciously recognize that to the extent they achieve the alignment of their ego consciousness with their unconditionally loving nature the quality of their life will improve. To the extent this alignment doesn’t happen they will experience the same sense of isolation, loneliness, and meaningless existence that any of us feels when we are cut off from our unconditionally loving nature. The “successful” don’t need our envy and reverse prejudice they need to be recognized as fellow travelers seeking authentic happiness and genuine connection just like the rest of us.