I don’t know if you can personally relate but I have definitely acted in ways I later regretted because I though one thing and later discovered that my perception was completely wrong. I have also allowed myself to be manipulated by people because I wanted their approval so I accepted what they said as the truth when, in fact, they were merely telling me what I wanted to hear so I would do what they wanted me to do, and I did exactly what they wanted.
Once I became aware of how easily I could be manipulated by simply accepting what others told me without investigating the facts myself, I decided that I have a responsibility to investigate the stories I accept from others along with the stories I tell myself and approach all of these stories with more curiosity and open-mindedness. My experience has taught me to be skeptical of my stories, to hold them loosely in my mind. Rather than being certain of my perceptions and opinions I say instead that “based on the information I have available at this time this is how I see things but I reserve the right to change my mind should new information become available.” Since I have made this decision I am less easily manipulated, and I tend to make less embarrassing and hurtful errors with others.
The other benefit of holding my stories loosely is that by changing my perception I can change my experience without requiring outside conditions to be different. For example, I recently lost my job when the company closed down. If the story I told myself was that I am 58 years old and will have a difficult time finding another job that pays as well because few companies will hire someone of my age then the corresponding experience would be pretty depressing. On the other hand the story I chose to tell myself was that when the universe closes one door it always opens another so the experience I got was one of curiosity and excitement about what my next employment adventure might be. The condition is the same but the experience is radically different and we are free to choose which experience we want. Which experience do you suppose will put me in a more resourceful and effective frame of mind to find a rewarding job? This example is but one of many that govern our life-experience and we always retain the right to choose our experience even if we lack the power to alter our present conditions.
What would change for you if you held your perceptions and opinions more loosely in your mind reserving the right to change them should new information become available?
Knowing that the way we interpret the world determines our experiences what changes, if any, might you be willing to make to generate a more positive life-experience?