2. What perspective leads to a more fulfilling and rewarding experience? and
3. How does our experience change when we shift our standard of evaluation from our external to our internal world?
We have been conditioned to believe from a very early age that the way to be truly happy is for conditions outside of us to be a particular way. If we can accomplish something significant, find a loving partner, secure a good job, live in the right neighborhood, etc., then we will be happy. Unfortunately we can think of people who have done all these things yet are deeply unhappy.
So what’s going on? How come the strategy doesn’t always work? What are we missing? What’s going on is that we are brought face-to-face with an error trap; a faulty assumption that our happiness is a function of the outside world when the more accurate reality is that our happiness is a function of what we are holding within us.
Happiness and our quality of life are inside jobs. They arise from how we view our life. To the extent that we can access our own unconditionally loving nature and extend this into the world our experience of our self, of others, and of the world beyond being to change in the most remarkable ways. Kahlil Gibran said “Love seeks only to multiply itself.” When we shift our focus from things outside of us to things inside of us we discover that we have the power to transform our present life experience. By shifting our focus from the external world of things to the internal world of unconditional love as expressed through such things as gratitude, service, compassion, wisdom, and a host of other qualities we possess within us we experience the genuine happiness and fulfilling quality of life we have been seeking.
We may not be able to control the world outside us but we always retain the power to change our experience by shifting our focus from things outside of us to the unconditionally loving life-force within us. Living from the inside-out rather than the outside-in is the path to the quality of life we have been seeking and frees us from the tyranny of trying to change the world outside of us in order to have a more satisfying and fulfilling life-experience.