What a diabolical agreement we have woven around our hearts in the misguided assumption that superficiality is less destructive to our soul than the risk of incurring humiliation, ridicule and rejection. While there is much to recommend prudent precaution, what of the unintended consequences of friendships unknown, love unrevealed, intimacy unattained?
Must loneliness be our inevitable lover?
What is our recourse? How might we navigate such a minefield of emotional peril where a misstep could trigger rejection and humiliation? Is it better to accept isolation and loneliness?
The answer resides in the relationship between risk and cost. For however likely the risk, the cost is assured. Choosing safety guarantees the ultimate penalty, loneliness. Choosing risk offers the ultimate prize made sweeter for the dangers in daring it.
We are hard wired for social connection, and authentic connection is the flower that blooms in the soil of vulnerability and intimacy. Let us plant our garden courageously, dare rejection, and watch our garden blossom to grace our lives and the lives of others. Let the fragrance, colour, and life-affirming beauty of our garden be the testament of our resiliency and vitality; to a life truly and daringly expressed.
May your garden inspire others to sow their seeds with faith that every flower, yet unborn, awaits the sower to bring its beauty, wonder and power to life in a world desperately, secretly longing to experience an open heart and authentic connection.
Love and Hugs from the Garden of our Fellowship