2. How did this disconnection occur and how do we reclaim it?
3. How would our life change if we had conscious alignment and access to the infinite resources of the universe?
When you were born you didn’t experience any separation between yourself and the universe you existed in. Everything in your universe was completely interconnected. When someone showed up they existed when they went away they ceased to exist. It took you somewhere around 18 months to begin perceiving that there was a separation between you and the rest of the universe. That people and things existed independently of you and that rather than being the entire universe you were only a tiny fraction of it along with everyone and everything else.
The unintended consequence of this logical arrangement was the requirement that you withhold certain parts of yourself that might cause you to lose the love and attention you needed in order to survive. This was the moment when you psychically split in two. The parts of you that were acceptable and attractive to the world became your visible self while those parts of you that your ego deemed a threat, to securing the love and attention you needed, became your hidden self.
From this logical but damaging beginning we have been primarily living through our visible self. Over the years this strategy brought us a degree of love and attention but it also brought us a lingering fear that if anyone ever discovered our hidden self they would reject us. So we show people what we think they want to see and keep the other parts locked away. This has led to a growing experience of loneliness and isolation. Until we are able to express our whole self we will never know if we are loved as we truly are or merely loved because we have figured out how to fool everyone about ourselves.
This is a lonely place to live from and we are becoming increasingly aware that this strategy is incapable of bringing us the experience of genuine connection and unconditional love we yearn for. The only way to experience genuine connection and unconditional love is if we have the courage to be vulnerable and show the world our entire self. While there is a risk that some people will reject us, the love and acceptance we receive from those people who accept us exactly as we are will be the very unconditional love and genuine connection we have been seeking our whole life and we will be able to take that love and connection inside us because we know that the person they are loving is our authentic self.
Being authentic is the only way to experience unconditional love and genuine connection. So the question we need to ask ourselves is - are we willing to take the risk of living as authentically as possible knowing this is the only way to experience unconditional love and genuine connection or are we willing to trade these life-enhancing experiences for the safety of conditional love that our protective strategy recommends even though this strategy prevents us from ever experiencing the love and connection we yearn for?