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video 7 transcript
While investigating the role Unconditional Love plays in helping us thrive, I came across some interesting research conducted in some Eastern European orphanages which showed that when infants were deprived of the common forms of loving kindness - like stroking, cuddling, touching, or eye contact - 30% of them died within the first two years of life despite the fact that their basic physical needs were met. Can anyone doubt our need for unconditional love in the face of such compelling evidence? Yet when I look out on the human landscape, and I notice how much effort people expend trying to be successful, as defined by the western world’s definition of, “Those with the most toys when they die win,” I can’t help wondering if we truly appreciate our need to experience and express unconditional love?
Here are a few questions I’d like to invite you to consider.
- If we know human beings need unconditional love in order to develop properly, and that healthy human beings have the greatest chance of reaching their highest positive potential, is it reasonable to conclude that we need unconditional love in order to thrive?
- If we are cut off from unconditional love, or decide to withhold it from others, is it reasonable to suspect that we cannot achieve the quality of life we desire, since the evidence is clear that unconditional love is indispensable to our mental, emotional, and physical well being?
- Finally, is it reasonable to suppose that the more unconditional love we extend towards others the more we’ll receive?
So as a Take-away Activity, I’d like to invite you to consider how much unconditional love you are extending and receiving. What would you do differently if you made a conscious decision to treat yourself and others with more unconditional love, to the best of your ability? And what one thing could you do to start extending more unconditional love into the lives of everyone you touch? It might be as simple as offering eye contact and a genuine smile to the grocery cashier, or deciding to withhold a hurtful criticism, or refusing to engage in gossip.
Expanding our experience of unconditional love doesn’t require some titanic effort or sudden conversion of our whole life. All it requires is a conscious intention to be a tiny bit more compassionate, or considerate, or self caring.
In the Tao Ti Ching - Lao Tsu noted,
“In the universe great things are made up of many small things. The sage doesn’t attempt anything very big and thus achieves greatness.”
Take baby steps. Easy does it but do it! Every act of loving kindness you extend, however small, increases the amount of love entering the world. And every loving act you extend has a powerful positive impact in your quality of life since it increases the amount of unconditional love you experience within yourself. The decision to be more loving towards yourself, others, and the world beyond, steadily moves you towards the realization of your highest positive potential which is your own unique ability to express and experience unconditional love in your life and the lives of everyone you touch.
In the next video we will explore “The Struggle to Fit In” which examines our struggle for connection and a feeling of belonging
I’m John Paterson - Thank you for joining me on this journey with me.