Is it possible that it’s the stories we tell ourselves, rather than external conditions, that determines what we will and will not allow into our lives, and this, in turn, determines our ability to experience the benefits the universe may be trying to offer us?
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For Example: I worked with a client who believed she was ugly. When someone tried to tell her that they thought she was beautiful the compliment bounced right off her. She either outright rejected their compliment by saying something like, “Don’t be ridiculous. I’m too fat.” or she stayed silent and rejected their compliment inside herself with her voice of criticism reminding her of all the reasons she believed she was unattractive. So long as she held onto her story of being ugly all the compliments in the world failed to convince her otherwise.
The same principle applies to experiencing love and genuine happiness. So long as we’re convinced that we are unworthy of love and genuine happiness, then no amount of love and encouragement from others will alter our belief or permit us to experience them. To change our experience we need to change the story we're holding inside us.
So let’s try a short exercise: See if you can identify one thing that you would love to experience that you don’t think you’re worthy of. Perhaps it’s the respect of others, or the feeling of belonging, or the experience of being valued and appreciated for who you truly are. Now ask yourself, “what self-critical beliefs am I holding about myself that may be preventing me from accepting this experience that others may be trying to offer me?” And, “what self-critical story am I willing to reconsider on the off chance that I might actually be more worthy than I have been willing to give myself credit for up to now?”
So as a Take-away Activity: I’d like to invite you to get curious about the self-critical stories you hold about yourself. What if the only thing preventing you from experiencing greater love and genuine happiness is your own internal stories of not deserving them? Whatever stories you have that suggest you are unworthy of love and genuine happiness are wrong because your deepest nature is unconditional love and God doesn’t make junk!
In the next video we'll examine How the stories we tell ourselves may actually be limiting us from realizing our positive potential. I’m John Paterson - Thank you for joining me on this journey.